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This room covers the topics of emotional health & wellness. My goals, along with my administrators (@), will be, to the best of our abilities, to provide you with possible solutions for your emotional well-being. You will find that the @ I have chosen are dedicated to helping you, not enabling you to remain in your emotional storms. So we can be tough at times but always remember we strive to assist you in your journey to be emotionally well and better able to cope with lifes challenges. You will find solutions here. It will be solely your choice to take action. After all, it is your life and how you choose to live it. Welcome aboard everyone!
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PROPERTY LINES/BOUNDARIES
A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behaviour we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful property.
If another person has an addiction, a problem, a feeling or self-defeating behaviour, that is their property, not ours. If someone is a martyr, immersed in negativity, controlling, or manipulative, that is their issue not ours.
If someone has acted and experienced a particular consequence, both the behaviour and consequence belong to that person.
If someone is in denial or cannot think clearly on a particular issue that confusion belongs to him or her.
If someone has a limited or impaired ability to love or care, that is their property, not ours. If someone has no approval or nurturing to give away, that is that person’s property.
People’s lies, deceptions, tricks, manipulations, abusive behaviours, inappropriate behaviours, cheating behaviours, and tacky behaviours belong to them too. Not us.
People’s hopes and dreams are their property. Their guilt belongs to them too. Their happiness or misery is also theirs. So are their beliefs and messages.
If some people don’t like themselves, that is their choice. Other people’s choices are their property not ours.
What people choose to say and do is their own business.
What is our property? Our property includes our behaviours, problems, feelings, happiness, misery, choices and messages; our ability to love, care and nurture; our thought, our denial, out hopes and dreams for ourselves. Whether we allow ourselves to be controlled, manipulated, deceived or mistreated is our business.
In recovery, we learn an appropriate sense of ownership. If something isn’t ours, we don’t take it. If we take it, we learn to give it back. Let other people have their property and learn to own and take good care of what’s ours.
